Self Love Story - Noelle
Updated: Mar 30
Alexis Easley is a 23-year-old woman born and raised in Baltimore, Maryland. A writer, creator, and aspiring businesswoman who is currently employed at Verizon wireless. I am a fighter, lover, and a victorious survivor. If I could describe my life thus far in three words, the words I’d choose would have to be beauty from ashes.
I am proud to say that I created a website that promotes all things self-love, helping women love their true selves. My blog is also aimed to help black women overcome the stereotypes that society has branded us with. Praying through hard times is the only way to get through hard times, and unfortunately, I learned that the hard way. God never leaves us nor forsakes us, it is us who leaves him thinking that we can do this thing called life on our own until we realize that we do indeed need God. Where would I be without Him? W. Love, Noelle is a haven for all who are starting, going through, or restarting their self-love journey. The Self-Love Blog was created out of my own need for more self-love.
Instead of going through the journey alone, I decided to document it, and write the lessons I’ve learned along my journey. My blog is a self-help, self-care, self-love sanctuary for all in need.
On my blog, I created a series called More Than Just A Black Girl. This series was months in the making because I wanted to go about it in a certain way. The series features black women of all different ages, shades, backgrounds, and lifestyles. It was created to show the world that we are more than the words they’ve tattooed onto us in invisible ink. It is to show the diversity of black women, the strength and the courage of Black women.
I have so many plans for my blog I honestly don’t know where to start sometimes. I want to write more, feature more writers, do videos, and expand my brand further. I’d love for younger Black women to be introduced to my blog and have my testimonies impact their lives for the better.
Maybe someone can learn from my mistakes.
I am easy to reach through Instagram mostly. If you want to get in contact with me the best bet is to text or message me. People can expect honesty from me. I am pure and raw with my words and I don’t cut short. I’m going to tell it like it is because that’s what the world needs.
But I’m careful with my approach and with my words. Well, one thing I did or do when I'm emotionally down is write. I write about it and share it with others because that's a way to let others know that they aren’t alone. I’ve learned that when I start feeling down, more than likely someone else I know is feeling the same way. Besides blogging I just do a little self-care. A nice hot shower or bath with a sugar scrub followed by my whipped body butter always puts me in a good mood. Lighting some candles and having a clean, safe space does it for me as well.
I am not very public with certain things I’ve overcome, mainly because I’ve always been afraid to talk about it. I am a domestic abuse survivor, and a rape and molestation survivor. I am a suicide survivor and a former cutter. I've overcome severe depression and anxiety. I know that I’ve overcome because the Bible says, “and they shall overcome by the blood of the lamb and the word of their testimony."
A lot of the times I was going through, that scripture was ringing loud in my ears, reminding me that this moment isn’t forever. This pain this loss this emptiness isn’t going to last forever. I also know that I’ve overcome because I can talk about these things without letting them pull me back down into the depths I was in. Being able to feel the pain of my past without allowing it to kill me is a skill I’ve mastered with God and therapy.
Ladies, listen! Even if you think you don’t know how to show love to yourself or where to begin, even if you have no idea what self-love is, that is okay. You can learn.
If you take any advice from me it should be this: learn yourself. Without any outside influences, without anyone telling you who they think you are, figure out who you are, who you want to be what you want. Think for yourself and about yourself. Take the time out to truly learn the ins and outs of yourself.
But also remember it's okay to not know sometimes. It’s okay to feel lost go easy on yourself. You will always find your way back, you just have to keep going and growing. Don't let your growth scare you, healthy you are the best you.
Don't settle for less ever. And I mean it.